Friday, July 22, 2011

Left hanging...


If you don't like me or don't want to hang out or wish to not do something I've asked of you... have the guts to just say so. Don't tell me you'll do something and then leave me hanging. It hurts my feelings anytime, and especially so right now.

Yesterday afternoon, while most people were still at work, I was feeling a little lonely and blue. I needed a friend. So I called someone I thought would be home and told her I really needed a friend to hang out for a little while, maybe do a little shopping or go get those smothered french fries at La Frontera we've talked about before. She said that sounded fun and she wanted to do it but needed a few minutes and would call me right back. An hour goes by, two hours, five... overnight. Still haven't seen or heard from her.

At the very least a phone call to say I'm not coming would have been appropriate. I would have done that if the roles were reversed and some unforeseen urgency came up. Am I being too harsh? Am I expecting too much? I don't think so. I'm worth more than to accept this kind of treatment!

This particular friendship needs to end. It isn't the first time she's flaked on me, but it can surely be the last. Simple common courtesy has to extend both ways and unfortunately it doesn't seem to be that way in this relationship. Though I am deeply disappointed, I am not angry. I can forgive, wish her the best for her life and simply walk away with a smile on my face. Forgiveness does not equal being a doormat.

I'm not a doormat. I deserve healthy, caring, supportive friendships. And to everyone who can offer that... WELCOME!

3 comments:

Rob said...

Agreed, I often get annoyed over the very same things. it is worth it to invest int he lives of others especially in a time of need. Remember to always practice that courtesy and I pray that better friends may be sent your way!

Lisa said...

call or text me... I'm st the school all day everyday, but I have evenings! I could come by and kidnap you, bring you to my house and you can see my insanity! Ice cream and french fries always included :)

Heidi said...

So I tried to post this Friday, don't know what happened, but here we go again... I was sitting at in my office speechless over this post for a very long time... I just didn't know what to say. To invest in another person is something that should not be taken for granted. It is a precious gift to give of yourself and enrich another. To give false hope and follow through with such lack of accountability is selfish to say the least... I am sorry dear friend that this happened to you...